Eva from Canada sent the following message to Multilingual Living asking for advice. Being that many of us multilingual families can relate to Eva’s situation, we hope that you will take a moment to leave a comment for Eva to help her find a solution to her difficult feelings of isolation.
Please be kind in your responses since it takes a lot of courage to open up to the world and share our personal struggles!
Dear Multilingual Living,
I am as Canadian as Canadian as it gets. I figure I’m 4th generation. I speak English. My husband was born and raised in Canada but his parents migrated from Greece. My husband is very Canadian & speaks fluent English and Greek.
Since the birth of our first child, I’ve experience my husband becoming very Greek! The moment he comes home from work the conversations turn Greek – even my conversations with the children get hijacked where I can no longer participate because of the language barrier. I can no longer jump in nor can I be a passive observer of my children’s relationship with their father. I find our family time is very divided. We rarely interact as a family.
I feel depressed, isolated when he’s home and sometimes anxious that my husband is going to ruin my nice time with the kids. He feels that I’m home with them all day and should get my fill so that once he comes home and all turns Greek I shouldn’t have a problem with it.
I didn’t realize his use of language could do this. Do I need to change my feelings? I’m needing some assistance. Please help.
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